First date deal breakers: the 10 turn offs that could cost you a second date
After careful analysis of the survey results, we've determined the top five first date faux pas – along with five things you didn't know were stopping you from scoring a second date! It's first date advice you can use - as it's from the minds of those Kiwis actually doing the dating.
Five of the biggest first-date deal-breakers
- Suggesting a ‘fancy’ first date idea
Forget the latest glam restaurant. 88% of Kiwis think that the ideal first date is a casual one. That means you’re best off finding a top spot for a get-know-you coffee instead of going all out. Stuck for ideas? If you're in the capital, try our Wellington date ideas
- Lying about being a smoker
First date tip: lies are bad and untruths soon rumbled. Still, some lies are more taboo than others and, for New Zealanders, the worst is lying about smoking. 70% see it as an instant turn-off, making it worse than lying about age (53%), weight (44%) or height (17%).
- Wearing your favourite 'funny' t-shirt
Your uni bros might giggle at your ‘Game Over’ t-shirt (the one with the stick figures getting married) but, if you want a second date, you’ll leave it at home. So-called ‘funny’ t-shirts are considered the worst thing to wear on a date, putting off 57% of NZ singles.
- Getting too frisky too early
For around half of single Kiwi women, first dates mean that sex is off the menu. Indeed, 51% of women think that sex is a taboo subject for a date (vs 19% of men). It's the same story with proposing post-date sex – a no-no for 48% of women and just 10% of men.
- Turning up in jandals
We Kiwis love jandals. The love runs so deep that they've even made it onto a stamp. And yet, we don’t love them as part of a first date outfit. 23% of singles would be put off if their date arrived in jandals (more than would be turned off by white shoes with black socks!).