Sophie Watson, 05.08.2015

Smart is sexy: how your love for books could score you a date

Can reading books improve your chances in love? A recent EliteSingles survey says yes! In fact, 60 per cent of respondents say that they prefer dating those who read avidly. What's more, the contents of your book shelf may make you more attractive.

With help from our members and from EliteSingles psychologist Salama Marine, we explored this literary longing and tested the claim that reading is sexy.

The numbers don’t lie: reading is sexy!

It is a truth universally acknowledged that a single person in possession of a good book must be quite attractive – to our survey respondents that is!  Indeed, nearly 2/3 of the 1700 singles who answered our ‘bookshelf’ survey admitted that they would like to date someone who loves to read.1 What's more, this lust for literacy is a trend we have seen occur again and again.

For instance, in our ‘hottest hobbies’ study, we looked at the anonymous user data of 40,000 Kiwi singles to determine which hobbies New Zealanders consider to be the most attractive. Reading made it into the top 10 list of the most attractive pastimes, coming in at number 7 overall.2

Likewise, in a survey co-operation between EliteSingles and interior design firm Westwing, 1500 singles revealed what most turns them on about a date’s home. For 26 per cent of those surveyed, it was a well-stocked bookshelf that made them weak at the knees.3 The fact that all three studies showed a clear link between books and attraction means it is safe to say that reading is sexy. Therefore, if you're a reader, you and your hobby have instant appeal.

EliteSingles infographic showing that people think reading is sexy

So reading is sexy – but that’s not all there is to it. Indeed, the survey unearthed some interesting facts about men, woman and the desire for a literate lover.

1. Men like women who embrace their sensuous side

Putting the lover back in book lover, the survey revealed that men’s heads are most easily turned by women who read erotica. In fact, for more than one in five of the men surveyed, female erotica readers are as sexy as it gets.

Indeed, when asked ''What is the most attractive genre a potential partner can read?'' 21 per cent of men picked erotic fiction as the ultimate turn-on, putting it far ahead of the next most popular genres – thrillers, at 12 per cent and biographies, at 11 per cent. In other words, if you’re a woman wanting to meet a man on your next commute it might be time to put down the paper and pick up 50 Shades of Grey (or even some Anaïs Nin).

Further reading: wanting to meet single Kiwi men on your wavelength? Click here to learn more.

2. Women like men of mystery

However, the same strategy is not going to work for men who are out to impress women. Indeed, the women in our survey were not fans of erotica, with just 6 per cent admitting that they find men who read it attractive.

The way to a woman's heart lies instead behind a veil of mystery: 19 per cent of women picked thrillers as the sexiest genre a man can read (James Patterson and Ngaio Marsh, take a bow!). This was followed in popularity by non-fiction, which was viewed as attractive by 17 per cent of women surveyed and by biographies, which were favoured by 16 per cent.

Further reading: looking for single women seeking men in NZ? This is the place to start.

3. Like attracts like

Ultimately though, while genre can play a part in attraction, the survey shows that reading is sexy no matter what book you prefer.

According to EliteSingles psychologist Salama Marine, there are a variety of reasons why singles love those who love books but, chiefly, it’s because ‘’people look for those who have interesting hobbies – and reading is one of them. Why? Because a great book leads to great discussions.’’ She adds ‘’also, your taste in books can highlight aspects of your personality: are you curious, romantic, dreamy? By sharing your tastes you can show and share your inner world.’’4

Of course, the book love could be down to one simple thing: like is attracted to like. And, as it turns out, what Kiwis like is books. In fact, New Zealand is a nation of book worms. As the survey revealed, a whopping 90 per cent of those in NZ like to read for pleasure and, furthermore, NONE of the Kiwis surveyed said that they view people who like reading as ‘'boring.'’ Salama says that this popularity shows that ‘’reading is an easy passion to share with [your] partner’’ – which makes it the kind of common ground that cements a great relationship!

In conclusion, if you want to get in someone's good books, pick up a good book. Why? Because reading is – officially – sexy.

Are you ready to start a new chapter in your love life? Want someone who shares your passions and who is on the same page? Then try EliteSingles today.

EliteSingles editorial August 2015

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