In other words, if you are looking for love later in life, you are far from alone. EliteSingles’ Partner Psychologist and Relationships Coach, Sam Owen agrees that those dating after 50 shouldn’t ‘’feel despondent,’’ as ‘’being single in your 50s is increasingly common.’’ The statistics prove her point: according to the 2013 Census, approximately 33% of the NZ population is over 501 and many of these people are single. Indeed, Statistics New Zealand says that "one-person households will account for 29% of all households [by] 2031... with almost three-quarters of [this] growth occurring among those aged 55 years and over.’’2 If the projections are accurate, it would seem that the mature dating boom is just beginning – so what better time than now to get involved?
Older dating: your new beginning starts here
The rise of 'senior' dating in NZ
There are two things to know about the older dating scene in NZ. One, it is thriving and two: so-called ‘senior’ daters are not as doddering as that name might suggest! Indeed, while the term senior might bring with it mental pictures of blue rinses and carpet slippers, in practice mature daters are simply those who have been round the block once or twice. They might be bereaved, divorced or yet to settle down but they share a common goal of finding love and companionship.
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Another piece of great news for those trying older dating is that finding romance can improve your quality of life. Studies have shown that happiness levels rise with the frequency of sex– no matter how old the participants.5 As Sam Owen says, ’’a loving romantic relationship can assist an increase in self-esteem and confidence, especially if you have been feeling a bit like you have been left on the shelf.’’
Of course, a loving relationship doesn’t necessarily have to be sexual to be fulfilling. Indeed, Owen believes that the love in itself can boost self esteem. This in itself is good news as ‘’an increase in self-esteem helps us to make better decisions, experience fewer negative emotions [and] feel more optimistic about the world.''
Finding love as an older single can make you feel wonderful, a fact that applies whether this for you means sex or, simply, companionship. Both are equally valid choices and both can boost self esteem. Indeed, as Sam Owen points out, a good part of the confidence increase comes from the fact that finding a partner gives you someone to pal around with: a person to emotionally connect with.
She says that finding ''loving companionship also means we are better at forming and sustaining other close relationships, [which are] integral to good health, successful careers, our happiness, and even our longevity as research shows people who are better connected live on average 3.7 years longer.’' Now there's a great reason to date!
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What's more, we make these suggestions with true compatibility in mind. We take your relationship preferences, personality and ideal location in New Zealand into account – meaning that finding companionship is easier with us. If you're ready to meet other Kiwis interested in mature dating, then join EliteSingles today.