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Over 50s dating tips: find a partner with us
by Sophie Watson
At EliteSingles we aim to provide such a place: a supportive, safe, online dating service where we can help you meet someone wonderful. We match Kiwi singles with others who share their relationship goals and ambitions, creating lasting, loving matches between people of all ages: from those in their 20s, 30s and 40s to those ages 50+, 60+ and 70+. The thing they have in common? They are serious about dating and serious about finding love – just like you. Are you ready to meet them? Register with EliteSingles today.
Dating over 50 with EliteSingles
When you find yourself single after a certain age, it can certainly be jolting. There’s a good chance that this wasn’t part of the game plan and it can be all too easy to feel like the only fool in the pool (or at least the only ‘normal’ one who’s dating over 50). But what if there was a place where you could find others on your wavelength, who share your priorities? What if the decision to try over 50s dating could be the start of something amazing?
For the over-50s, dating is made easier online
For those who grew up with exercise books rather than iPads and school socials instead of Facebook, the idea of entrusting the internet with one’s love life might sound silly. Yet, to dismiss online dating out of hand is to dismiss one of the most popular places for older Kiwi singles to meet.
Indeed, dating sites like EliteSingles are well suited to the mindset of the over 50s. Dating at this age can be tricky, after all – it’s not always easy to meet singles full stop, let alone those with whom you have a lot in common. Online, however, it’s a different story. Not only are there many so-called ‘senior’ singles actively looking to find a partner, our smart matchmaking system means that those people you do meet will already be on your wavelength.
So, heading online is one of the best bets for those Kiwis dating after 50. It gives you access to a community of like-minded singles; it can bring love, companionship and romance and it all happens in a safe, supportive environment. Why not join us today?
1. It’s ok to take things slowly
Older dating can be very different from looking for love in your 20s or 30s. For most people, trying dating over 50 can be something of a juggling act, as you try and reconcile the idea of new love with memories of your past. It’s no easy feat, whether you be divorced, a long-time single or a widower or a widowed.
To put yourself at ease, it’s ok to focus on finding companionship, at least at first. As Relationship Coach Sam Owen says, you can ‘’endeavour to increase your friendship circle as a way of finding Mr or Mrs Right. This can feel more comfortable than just looking for a life partner.’’ This may of course blossom into more with time, and that’s ok. Just make sure to take it at the pace that feels right for you and your stage of life.
2. Be future-focused
When you do decide to take the next step, it is vital to give your new partner their own space in your life. Comparing and contrasting them to a previous relationship does you all a disservice, confusing the boundaries between your ex and your next and acting as an emotional road-block to moving on.
Being future focused also enables you to make the most of any over 50s dating opportunities that might come your way. Think of a date where someone can’t help mentioning their ex; however well- intentioned, it is going to seem that they are so hung up on the past that there’s no room for you. In contrast, a date with someone who is confident, positive and focused on you – now, that’s very attractive!
3. It’s never too late for love
Many mature singles who are returning to dating report feeling out of touch with the ‘rules’ of romance, or worry that it’s too late to find love again. The good news? This is nonsense. Those dating over 50 are in good (and growing!) company. In fact, as Sam Owen points out, ‘’being single in your 50s is increasingly common.’’
You may even find dating more rewarding when you’re more mature. After all, those you go on dates with will have vastly more life experience than the dates of your youth. You may also find more honesty about the future; more acknowledgement that you may have a few decades behind you, but the decades ahead? They’re yet to be decided. Make the most of them and join EliteSingles today. After all, it’s never too late for love.