Attractive singles and higher relationship expectations
Indeed, in an EliteSingles survey about financial compatibility, we asked a sample of our members whether or not they deemed themselves ‘attractive.’ At the same time, we asked them about the values they assigned to five popular relationship expectations: good looks, a sense of humour, wealth, success, and intelligence.
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The survey revealed that those who believe they rate as 'attractive' were inclined to attach high importance to these key partner characteristics, whereas those who rate themselves 'unattractive' give these same attributes less weight. For example, while 83 per cent of 'attractive' singles think that their partner should be wealthy, just 63 per cent of respondents who didn't tick the 'attractive' box think the same.
This was a theme repeated across all attributes: from requirements for intelligence (69 per cent/ 42 per cent) to demands for wit (78 percent/ 71 per cent), to expectations of success (92 percent/ 69 per cent). If a person saw themselves as 'attractive' then they had more exacting requirements than someone who didn’t.
Self confidence and aiming high when dating
The interesting thing about these results is that the survey did not look at attractiveness as an objective truth. Instead it asked people to self-identify as 'attractive' (or not). This means that these results really show a quite simple dynamic: singles with a lot of self-confidence are happy to aim high when it comes to love.
Psychologist and EliteSingles researcher Dr Wiebke Neberich pointed out that this fits in with most theories about one’s sense of worth when dating. She says ‘’the most important thing regulating the partner market seems to be one’s own perceived ‘market value’ ...what we get depends on what we ourselves [think we] have to offer. Attractiveness is a valued quality and can thus be ‘exchanged’ at a good ‘price.’”
READ MORE: Is it a good idea to be specific when dating or should you try to keep your options open? We discussed the paradox of choice here.
Of course, at EliteSingles, we believe that getting specific about your relationship expectations can only be a good thing – even when those expectations are on the high side. After all, how else can you be connected to someone truly compatible? What’s more, we believe that this specificity shouldn’t be a privilege reserved just for the ‘attractive’ – everyone should have a chance to meet someone wonderful.
Indeed, we believe that all of our members deserve nothing less than a partner who suits their relationship expectations, someone who reveals this happy truth: everyone is attractive in the eyes of those who love them.
Are you ready to meet that compatible person who sees your beauty, inside and out? Then try EliteSingles today.