Dealing with a breakup: fix your broken heart
Dealing with a breakup takes time, energy and a positive frame of mind. As Bess Myerson once wrote, “to fall in love is awfully simple, but to fall out of love is simply awful.” While there is no obvious solution for how to quickly heal, we can identify the parts of the breakup which hurt the most and take progressive steps to improve our mindset.
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Pain is physical and emotional
Lovesickness often feels similar, or even worse, to physical pain, and we often express our feelings in physical terms, by referring to the “scars” of the breakup or that an ex “tore my heart out”. There is, in fact, a link between emotional and physical pain, though. Research shows that when dealing with a breakup, the brain often triggers sensations akin to ‘real’ pain – meaning lovesickness can truly be as painful as we often claim it is.1 This part of the healing process is often understated, despite the fact it can lead to serious emotional problems.
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Connect with those closest to you
There is, however, some medicine for emotional pain; your closest friends and family. When in the early stages of handling a breakup, our bodies produce more cortisol (the hormone responsible for feelings of stress) and less norepinephrine. This chemical imbalance disrupts our mood and can be said to be what ‘heartbreak’ actually is. To overcome this, we need to break the habit of grieving alone and redress the feelings of lovesickness by spending time with your friends and family. In terms of fixing a broken heart, there may be no better medicine than that provided by your loved ones.
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Dealing with a breakup: acceptance is the key
Many of us respond to a breakup by immediately blocking any mention, thought or sight of the ex. It seems both a sensible and perhaps unavoidable reaction, and certainly actively looking to continue contact is usually a bad idea, but blocking the relationship from your mind entirely may not be helpful in terms of moving on. Some contemplation of the issues that led to the breakup will help you look forward and become stronger.
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Moving onto new romance
Understandable it may be, but closing our hearts entirely after a breakup may only serve to prolong the process of moving on. Trying to meet new people is a step which many leave for too long, weary of emotions and stress returning. Though time should be given to reflect and find support in your close friends, keeping sight of eventually finding a long-term partner is a crucial part of dealing with a breakup. When you do feel sufficiently separated from immediate post-breakup emotion, ensure that you take things slowly to meet only those you feel a genuine connection.
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Though joining a dating site like EliteSingles may not be an instant fix for lovesickness, it can be a positive final step in the process, a way of definitely saying you’ve dealt with the breakup and are ready to move on. Are you ready to take that step? Then join us today.