Sex at work – fantasy or reality?

illustration of sex at work

Chances are that, at least once in our lives, we will feel attracted to a colleague. After all, when you are seeing the same people every day and perhaps sharing a few drinks on a Friday, there’s a good chance that innocent emails can turn into heated glances over the photocopier – right?

But do these glances ever turn into more? Should they? Our members recently revealed to us just what they think of having sex at work..

At EliteSingles we wanted to know if Kiwi workplaces embrace the glamorous hedonism of Mad Men or if the reality is more like the mundane 9-5 of The Office. To find out, we polled our members for their thoughts and experiences of office romance (and you can have your – anonymous – say below!).

The results of the survey? Well, they should reassure employers, at least!1

Do people have sex at work?

Although both genders admitted to having sexual fantasies about a colleague and have previously flirted, men are clearly more willing to follow through: 50% of men said they had had sex at work, compared to just 24% of women.

Where in the office appeals for sex?

When asked about most tempting places for workplace sex, gender differences arose again. The photocopier seemed far more attractive to men (19%) than women (3%), as did the kitchen (again 19% and 3% respectively).

Overwhelming preference was shown for the security of the storage room, a personal office space or a conference room, with men voting 35%, 40% and 30% and women voting 20%, 29% and 32% respectively.

But of those that have done the deed, reviews fall short of inspiring; 80% of women and 55% of men said they would never again do it again.

Consequences if caught

According to the study, two-thirds of workers habitually flirt with colleagues, and 55% admitting having sexually fantasised about a colleague – yet just a third admitted to previously having sex at work. Looking to the global results of a similar study, it seems the the risk of being fired or upsetting the office atmosphere surely explains this; Kiwi employees are evidently more about concerned about the risks (or subsequent embarrassment) to let their flirting translate into reality.

Does sex at work spoil a relationship?

Perhaps the proof is in the pudding; perhaps romance among colleagues is often not the best idea. A quarter of survey respondents said they would be worried about their relationship being spoiled, with 19% fearing the office gossip surrounding the relationship and 13% indicating concern over putting their career on the line. For Kiwi workers looking for professional and personal stability, perhaps keeping romance and work separate is the best idea!

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EliteSingles editorial, December 2014.

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Cacioppo, J.T., Cacioppo, S., Gonzaga, G.C., Ogburn, E.L., and Vander Weele, T.J. (2013). ‘Marital satisfaction and break-ups differ across on-line and off-line meeting venues’

These results were taken from an online survey with 191 participants. Average age: 44. 64% female.

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